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[–]TalerTest 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

About a month ago someone made a very similar post which was later removed. I think people like this want a sympathy hug-box rather than advice. Speaking from my own experience, it's best to ignore them if you have nothing gooey and sensitive to say.

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

She could also just not tell someone they have a "victim mentality."

Either they do, in which case they'll react poorly. Or they don't, in which case they'll react poorly. It's just a shitty, unhelpful thing to say to anyone.

[–]TalerTest 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I thought that was a fair comment. She gave OP some sound advice but it was met with hostility. On top of that, OP edited her original comment to add all of that 'woe is me' stuff to make herself look like even more of a victim. I don't know about you but I call that a victim mentality. I also don't like way OP assumes she's the only one who comes from a homophobic background and kept trying to use that as some kind of sympathy card.

[–]sickofit 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Right? Like either way you're just insulting someone for being sad and essentially telling them it's their fault for feeling upset at all. What a crappy way to treat someone who is clearly already having a rough time and decided to reach out for help. All she said was that she felt lonely and wished she knew fewer homophobes and more fellow lesbians. It was clearly making her depressed and was hard to accept. But no, it must just be that everyone else here is spewing "nonsense" while this lady is the truth bringer.

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Lesson learnt 😁