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[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

no one can force you to sleep with a man, and if they suggest you try, you can find another therapist. the first therapist you see may not be the perfect fit, but as you seem to be in great distress, i think it would be well worth at least trying therapy out. explain that you are having obsessive intrusive thoughts due to environmental homophobia. it's unfortunate that straight/bi women pretend to be lesbians to entice men, but i assure you that does not mean actual homosexual women don't exist. we very much do. lesbians are real. regardless of your sexuality, you will never ever need to sleep with a man. no woman ever needs to try sleeping with men, no matter who she is. period.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

its just really hard to find other people like me. i wish i had a lesbian aunt or something. but i am looking for therapy and hoping that i can find someone in my budget. the cost really is a little crazy.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

yeah, it's really hard being so isolated but you're not alone in that feeling, i think all of us here wish it were easier to network. i do hope you can find something, maybe someone who works on a sliding scale. the price is unfortunate but your mental health is incredibly important. i think just getting away from social media would do a lot of good for you though, and that's free at least. :)

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

me too. i hope one day it becomes easier to meet other lesbians again. a few times i read about how in the past there were a lot of lesbian bars and things going on. i actually found one therapist that i think im going to try, he's a middle aged guy and is familiar with lgbt stuff but is more focused on depression and things like that. hopefully it works out well. i might update.

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

i have hope that this whole gender mania thing will calm down eventually & we'll have our spaces again. hopefully he can provide you with some good tools, & if it doesn't feel right, there are others out there. feel free to update if you'd like. we've all had our struggles, you're gonna get thru this. :)

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

thank you for your help, have a great day :)

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

no probs & right back at ya!!! <3