Certainly not. Goldstar is an admirable trajectory. All lesbian women should be able to safely come to the conclusion that they are lesbians before being pushed into (largely) heterosexual dating. Of course, a lesbian who has gone through more to figure out who she is, isn't any less of a lesbian either. Lesbian is basically a woman who has come to the conclusion that they are exclusively attracted to women and thus have no desire to be involved with a man for the rest of her life henceforth. Anyone who still wants men romantically at some point in their lives, is not a lesbian.

Homophobia is always head-shaking. But I see the bigger issue is the mass-altering of the narrative (pretending queer/identity(including acceptance of girldick) are default orientations if you aren't straight. This hurts lesbians. A lot of queer are straight people who don't fit into the mainstream, straight people who want to appear sexually adventurous plus milder and usually more homophobic bisexuals. The type of bisexual woman who genuinely date women tend to have no problem with the lesbian identity because it's actually to their benefit.). On top of that, the invasion of lesbian spaces. Men are always disgustingly obsessed with their penis. They have 90% of the female population, but they are still intent on 10% or less of the female population not wanting their parts? It's quite incredulous. Imagine if lesbians are this obsessed about the matter.