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[–]knownasness 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

man, i want to say i miss downelink and myspace for this very reason. i've never felt more in tune with this community than when those networks were at their peaks. but then i think about the fact that every single 'lesbian' friend(except one) i made on those sites, and it has to be close to 200 people, are now dating/married to a man or are a man themselves. unfortunately it appears that our slice of the gay community will be always be the breeding ground for "others", whether we know it or not.

[–]sickofit[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

200???

[–]knownasness 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

yeah man. it was the mid 2000s, i was fresh outta high school living in a super gay city with an abundance of free time and money. i will never be that social again i'll say that much hahah i probably have like 7 actual friends now, the rest are exes and former classmates and coworkers.

[–]sickofit[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Having such a big sample size go that way is so disappointing though ): I can dream of knowing 200 lesbians but I know maybe 5-10. And several went non-binary

[–]knownasness 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

very much so. also very frustrating because i'm certain a good deal of them have only done so due to society. there's no possible way that 'living in your truth' for so many women means being a man. that's insanity. there's nothing wrong with being a masculine woman. there's nothing wrong with loving masculine women. there's nothing wrong with loving women period. the fact that so many women seem to think they cannot live happy lives while being a woman or being with a woman is troubling.