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[–]ColdSoup 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I don't have internalised lesbophobia to that extent personally, but I do have a few things I've struggled to come to terms with and accept. I'm happy you're allowing yourself to be yourself!

-Acknowledging to myself that I am, in fact, exclusively same sex attracted, and that my lack of wanting to have sex with men isn't caused by trauma that I need to get over - it's natural and perfectly acceptable.

-Not "testing" my homosexuality by trying to force myself to imagine intimacy with a man when I start feeling down about being a lesbian. I always feel immediately grossed out and a little sick, like I'd just tried to imagine someone pooping or something. No, ColdSoup, you don't like men and you don't need to check and make sure every time you acknowledge that.

-Trying not to feel creepy about my attraction to women. Being a pervert in my head isn't violating or wrong.

-Letting myself think about women while masturbating without feeling guilty afterwards

I've found that during actual sex with a woman I have 0 discomfort and internalised lesbophobia because I'm just so in the moment. I find it infinitely hot, sensual and simply right. It's easy for me to appreciate my partners body like a work of art, completely separated from whatever the hell media thinks. Like for example I'm not much of an ass gal, it doesn't get me going. However I love love love my partners stomach and waist, I love women's necks and I love my partner having hair down there and her uneven labia, these are parts that I love about her outside of the media's perception of what is supposedly attractive. Although we are in a FWB type deal. I've never found the ideal porn woman body particularly attractive.

[–]Skipdip[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Omg yes! I totally agree with that forcing myself to imagine myself with men to test my homosexuality thing. I’m like “well maybe I could get off. That would make me not lesbian!” Strangely I don’t feel this is a requirement with women haha, no effort needed