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[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I’m on her side. Lol.

You either:

A) want a partner

Or,

B) want to do what you want, when you want to do it, and how you want to do it

Those are two incompatible ways to exist. I dumped a woman for that exact thing. I would have been REALLY torn with you though because it would be really hard to tell the woman I love that she needs to stop having a dream to be home with me. I bet it took her a good while to even make that ultimatum.

But you sound like a stubborn ass and that’s why you love that ass of yours so much. Kindred spirits. What a handful. You’re wife is probably better at wrangling women than you, low key, so as to not hurt your cowgirl pride and all.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

I probably helps that she’s about 9 years older then me. I spent a lot of time purposely dating women that were easily ran over, she’s not one of them. When we first met she wanted nothing to do with me, can’t blame her I was 30 and sleeping with 23 year olds and doing what I wanted because I knew that would let me. It’s been stated several times that I was a fixer upper project for her lol.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Sis, if some woman called me a fixer-upper I would be “fixin” to walk right out the door, that’s what. But I have not needed fixing, I suppose, having lived a very un-Shane lifestyle. I think you knew you needed a fix.

You were SUCH a rake, cowgirl Shane. A whole trail of broken hearts looking back at you. You’re not doing anything to dispel that comparison here. Lololol. I’m surprised she took a chance on you!

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I’m definitely the reacher, and she’s the settler. At first she questioned me a lot on why I would be with her when there are still conquests to be had, and if I was sure I was done with that chapter in my life. Deserved questions. There were a lot of bumps in the beginning, I put them there. It took a lot of work to be the person she deserves to have, still trying to figure some parts out. I’m not saying I changed for her, but she definitely softened me.