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[–][deleted] 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Don’t stick around and wait. Life is too short. Be her friend but don’t stick around. She is telling you what she wants right now and it’s not the same as what you want and that’s a disaster

[–]Jessica1993 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I tend to stay away from people who are all about the no labels crap, that's always a red flag to me when it comes to relashionships and that she's just a confused person but you do what you want to do . Also the fact that she flip flops between a day or two also tells me she's not a very serious person so another red flag for that.

[–]FrostyNugs 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This, OP. She's never gonna be ready. Don't wait for something that's never gonna happen.

[–][deleted] 12 insightful - 4 fun12 insightful - 3 fun13 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Don’t cry in your ice cream, eat it as a joyful celebration of not getting into that whole mess of a situation.

[–]TalerTest 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

She said she's into you and says yes when you ask her out but then turns around and says she's not ready for a relationship? Yeah it's time to buy some ice cream...

She sounds like someone who just wants attention and loves the feeling of someone pining after her. Don't waste anymore time on her since she clearly isn't serious. If she was, she would be with you.

[–]Jessica1993 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, i hate to make assumptions but she sounds like another one of those curious straight girls who fantasise the idea of liking or being with another girl but when it comes to committing, reality hits them in the face .

[–]SombreroBurlesque 7 insightful - 4 fun7 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

In my experience, wanting to keep things as they are without labels = wanting all of the benefits of a relationship without any of the committment and duties. You'd have a more equal partnernship with the ice cream.

[–]RedditHatesLesbians 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Honestly I'd wait, personally, but keep an emotional wall and distance by not letting myself get too invested. Keep talking to her in whatever way you both enjoy but acknowledge to yourself that in all likelihood it won't pan out. The reason being, how often do you come across another lesbian where you both genuinely like each other? Our dating pools are tiny, and sure life is short but it's not like we're straight girls with about 15 other guys they're attracted to to choose from at a moments notice in a couple miles radius. Maybe a exaggeration but you get the point. If your current dynamic makes both of you happy, you can keep it as a hopeful friendship for at least a little while before completely giving up, because she might come around. But idk this may be terrible advice lmao, listen to the others

[–]LesChameleon 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Usually people who claim that they're not ready for a relationship turn out to be so willing to jumo into it with someone else, sometimes not even long after they talked to you..been there, done that. Don't sit around and wait for no one!