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[–]begonia_skies 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I hate online dating but I am also glad it exists. I work in a pretty closed off environment and I'm am introverted. I think you just have to have lines drawn for you that you do not want to cross and keep an eye out for someone you get a "spark" with. I just try and be honest in my profile, for example, I love pets but I am allergic to cats, since this a dealbreaker for anyone that owns a cat, I include that in my profile so I don't waste their time or mine. I also include that I am a lesbian, I'm not exactly totally against dating a bisexual woman but I would prefer to also date a lesbian. I would get flamed if I directly wrote that, so I put it out there to vaguely imply as such. I don't know if that works, so time will tell I guess lol. I am also pretty tall so I include my height since I have gone on dates with women who seemed surprised I was taller than they expected, but that is probably specific to me!

I think "ghosting" in the sense that you have plans and don't show up is extremely rude. But if you aren't getting a positive feeling from a recently started text conversation, letting it go isn't the end of the world. You can be direct and say you aren't interested, but most of us weren't socialized to be that direct, so I think most women can "read the signs" when someone isn't interested.

I like to meet up fairly quickly, but having a bit of a conversation beforehand to make sure you are compatible is my preferred method. If someone just out of the gates wants to meet up, with little discussion beforehand, it does throw me a little bit.