Lesbians that don't call themselves lesbians

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[–]SailorMoon2020 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (12 children)

I prefer homosexual female/woman because lesbian never meant 'women exclusively attracted to women'. It was a word that was and still is defined as 'women who love/prefers women'. Upon reading numerous history books on lesbianism, I have yet to come across an era where the word was meant as what we ourselves are. Even Sappho was bisexual who preferred women.

[–]spirette 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (11 children)

what? Lesbian absolutely means woman exclusively attracted to women. Don't confuse what men write and say with what the word actually means. Of course, men refuse to believe that women aren't attracted to them, that women could be solely attracted to women. Who cares what men think? They always try to control language.

And no Sappho wasn't bisexual. Being married to a man was the norm. (Oscar Wilde was also married. Nobody claims Oscar Wilde was bisexual) Another lie cooked up by men. All her poems are only about loving women. let's not do this thing where we erase Sappho's sexuality, just like men and bihets have tried to do.

I don't like the term "homosexual" because it was invented to pathologize same-sex attraction. I'll keep using "lesbian" thank you very much.

[–]SailorMoon2020 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (10 children)

1.) First of all, the word lesbian actually comes from the Greek Islands of Lesbos where she is born, as a slang term to describe female on female sexual and romantic relations. In fact, it wasnt even until the late 19 century where the word has the meaning it has now. I seriously doubt they(lesbian of lesbos) had any say in how their word is used in modern terms(especially since it's a heated debate of topic for the island to this day).

2.) Yes, her poems were about women but a woman who engages in consentful sex with young male lovers is bisexual in my book.

3.) You don't like the word homosexual but you're willing to use a word that was taken without consent from the natives for your own identity purposes? Como sea, if it helps you sleep at night.

[–]TalerTest 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (9 children)

a woman who engages in consentful sex with young male lovers

Where did you read this?

[–]SailorMoon2020 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (8 children)

Absolutely! Sapphictries: The Global History of Love Between Women by Leila J. Rupp. An extraordinary book and I highly recommend it!

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