The "Sexual Spectrum": Why I Think It's Bunk

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[–]Gearbeta 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

There's a term for the AGP variety of this called "Pseudobisexuality" Since their fetish is being a woman, getting fucked by a man feeds into that fetish but they're not bisexual because they're not attracted to the man who's fucking them. IDK if I really buy that they're not "actually" bisexual but its an interesting theory.

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

But it’s a great example of exactly what I mean, and probably one of the complexities the op means are not captured. gender identity disorder was a “personality disorder” as a classification in the past, if I remember right, so I could see the sexual activity of someone with a personality disorder like that perhaps being confusing to themselves etc for a long time because those issues cloud orientation issues. Like, how do we classify fetishes and disorders? Where do asexuals sit? Lots of “asexuals” have sex preferences and sexual activity despite being asexual to a degree, but they are not included in the scale but are somehow outside of it. Like wtf

[–]Gearbeta 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I would argue that in many cases of "asexuals" they're not actually asexual at all but are reacting to an increasingly sexual society that tells them things about being sexual that they can't relate with. For example, I've seen on tumblr many girls saying that they're asexual and yet have a history of exclusively dating and having and enjoying sex with men. When you look further they say all sorts of weird things like "oh I'm not into hookups" or "I don't find pictures of guys attractive" or "I think penises look weird and i'm not into sucking dick" or "I hooked up with a bunch of men who basically used me as a sex toy and I hated it thus I must be asexual". On the gay side of things, a lot of girls think (and the current state of things doesn't make this better) that if they're not attracted to men they must be asexual. No questioning if they're attracted to women or not, just the lack of attraction to men = asexual.

EDIT: to add, I feel like most research into sexuality isn't very good because not enough women are included and bad faith researchers who come to questionable conclusions (like that lady who studied women's sexuality and came to the conclusion that all women are bisexual and ignored the data from lesbians who were consistently attracted to women and that never changed) ruin it.

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Yeah, and attraction is made out to be some weird magical fantasy thing where you are just swooning 24/7. That’s not really how it works. People are not just suddenly extremely aroused out of nowhere because they saw one photo or walked past an attractive person. It takes some actual interaction with potential