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[–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 32 insightful - 1 fun32 insightful - 0 fun33 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Our privates are private

And so are mine, as well as my private life and my home. You can't get access to them unless I consent. And I am allowed to make whatever requirements I want for giving out that consent because it's a privilege one must earn from me, not a right anyone has. So it doesn't matter what makes you uncomfortable, if you have a dealbreaker red flag, then I will not allow you into my pants or home. If you knowingly try to hide or dance around the issue, that's an attempt at deception, not keeping your private stuff to yourself.

Frankly, if you want anything to do with someone else's private life, then you lose the right to keep these kinds of things private from them. If we are having a conversation about potentially mashing our genitals together, then I have a right to know what kind of genitals you have. Heck, a lot of people ask for a lot more information than that. Among gay men, I've been asked about its size, the hair nearby, and whether or not I've been circumcised. None of this is violating my privacy if the question is coming from someone I plan or am considering having sex with. It's just making sure everyone knows what will happen before it potentially does, which everyone should have a right to know.