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[–][deleted] 39 insightful - 13 fun39 insightful - 12 fun40 insightful - 13 fun -  (3 children)

i don't get any pleasure from anal

It's almost like women lack the main thing that gives men pleasure when receiving anal. Weird, huh?

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I'm not a man, and welcome responses from the many gay/bi men in here with more experience with this on the male end. From my limited female perspective it does seem that for men both and women who genuinely like to receive anal sex, a major component of it is psychological. Once upon a time on r/agb I saw a question directed to bottoms about whether they enjoyed anal sex more from a psychological standpoint or a physical standpoint, and most seemed to say the psychological standpoint. For many it's both, but one more than the other, or one adds to the other. For others, it's only one not the other. I think on the female end, the psychological aspect is doing more work, but many women can and do feel physical pleasure from anal sex. For both men and women, it does seem to go with enjoying playing a submissive role in sex.

But no, Teen Vogue, just because I recognize that does not mean I think you should be marketing it to teen girls. And I certainly find the expectation that anyone should be into it a disturbing way in which porn has warped brains and interfered with real life for many people.

[–]pacsatonifil 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Physically it feels great. I’m trying to think of something that’s unisex. Like a back massage it feels good, but now imagine your grandpa giving you one vs your naked girlfriend giving you one. One feels psychologically better. It still feels good, but like if I stuck a dildo it would feel good but if I had sex with a man it would be a whole body experience. It’s another plane of existence. If it didn’t feel good I would not do it even if the man was super hot.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is a good analogy. And yes the whole body experience is an important point. Same-sex attraction is a whole body experience. We’re not attracted to singular body parts and personalities in isolation. It’s a package deal. The kind of sex they want us to have sounds weird, disembodied, and disconnected. Like glory holes or something. Sure, some people get off to that but it’s not enough for most people who want the full connection to a person we are attracted to in every way.