Men's IssuesVICE - "The Straight Men Who Have Sex with Trans Women" (i.e, gay men who lie to themselves)

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Gyneandromorphophilia only appears to exist in men.

I’ve talked to too many paraphilic women to buy Blanchard’s theory that paraphilic women would be super rare. I've also talked women who seem very GAMP.

heterosexuality only refers to one portion of their overall sexual makeup

If removing all sexual attractions to female people wouldn’t make a man asexual then said man isn’t hetersexual.

Heterosexual is not the complete package.

Hetersexual isn’t the complete package regarding sexuality in general as there are also other properties than the sex property that would further reduce the pool of people the person would consider potential sexual partner. Hetersexual is the complete package regarding regarding sex orientation though as the job of a sexual orientation is to give a complete list of the sexes the person might be interested in having sex with.

which I share with many sex researchers

Sex reaseachers are interested in the etiology of things, and the etiology and the orientation are not the same thing. But even in etiology there would be a difference between the two groups as something would have caused these men to develop in different ways, making one group GAMP and the other heterosexual.

If we were instead talking about something such as erotic asphyxiation, it would be easier, and we would probably readily agree that waterboarding a person for sexual gratification isn't anything like the way that the overwhelming majority get theirs, and needs a different classification.

I still consider the sex of the person they want to be waterboarded by of importance in sexual orientation taxanomy. A person who only wants normophilic sex with females and also only want to be waterboarded by female people still show a female sex specificity. And if the person doesn’t care who they get waterboarded by for sexual gratification then that person lacks the monosexual property of always caring about the sex of the person doing sexual stuff to them. The sex of the actor can only be ignored if the person doing the waterboarding isn’t involved at all in the process and therefore can’t turn the monsexual person off with their presence, maybe is in another room, and only there to push the button as the person doesn’t have a device to push the button themselves.

A person who is sexually turned off by people of the wrong sex only in the context of sexual encounters that are normophilic isn’t someone I consider monsoexual at all. They show a sex flexibility that monosexual people lack.

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I’ve talked to too many paraphilic women to buy Blanchard’s theory that paraphilic women would be super rare.

I also refute the idea that paraphilias are rare to nonexistent in women.

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I also refute the idea that paraphilias are rare to nonexistent in women.

? EDIT: Read it wrong, I see now.

Either way, even the button thing is bit of a stretch. I don't know if you have the natural instinct against incest or not, but if you do, monosexuality is like that regarding the wrong sex. If you would feel icky about involving a family member in the paraphilia, then a monosexual person would feel the same way about involving someone of the wrong sex.