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[–]RedditHatesLesbiansHomosexual Not Queer[S] 19 insightful - 2 fun19 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Mace is illegal, just checked :/

I'm definitely going to tell someone after all these comments... They've made me realise its more serious than I thought. I'm so used to having this sort of thing dismissed, tbh, and told it's not a big deal and I should ignore it. Not relating to a situation like this but relating to creepy men being creepy in general. I've always been encouraged to ignore cat calling, let men down easy, even go on dates just to be nice so I guess because of that socialisation I'm more accepting when I should have probably reported this weeks ago.

[–]julesburm1891 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Look into whatever UK legal self defense options there are and get it.

The guy who did this to me in grad school was a straight guy who was convinced he could turn me. I didn’t want to get anyone from the university involved and it quickly progressed to him stalking me at work, attempting to break into my flat, and renting the flat whose window was directly across from mine.

When I did get the university involved at that point, there were police reports and reports from professors who were concerned. The school said they’d expel him if he came within 300 feet of me on school property. I had to get a restraining order to cover off school times.

But, for reals, don’t fuck around with it. These type of guys are actually fucking crazy and it won’t fizzle out.