But honestly, I'm just sick of seeing (particularly younger) gay people shit on others for "internalized homophobia." Self-acceptance is not a fucking lightswitch that everyone can just turn on at will. And even if it was, pelting them with more shame isn't going make them flip that switch.

Thank you so much. This is exactly it. I think she could use her story to spread positivity towards the gay community and actually inspire other gay people. Instead, she's conveying the exact opposite impression and spreading an incredible negative energy. Honestly, life isn't black and white. And we're all different, have different backgrounds, personalities, cultures, etc. Just because I reacted a certain way towards something and the other person reacted in a different way, it doesn't necessarily mean I'm more right or wrong than the other person. She's basically saying people who struggle with living in an heteronormative society while being gay are "weak", "cowards" and "morally inferior". She says we're assuming things about her while assuming LOTS of things about me. I'm out since 14 to EVERYONE (family, friends, and people who didn't even know me or barely knew me). I actually started coming out to homophobic people at the time to inspire other gay people. But yeah, I'm weak, coward and morally inferior lmaaaaaaao. Honestly, this person sounds very cocky and insensitive to be honest.

Also, what helped me A LOT to overcome my internalized homophobia, and I mean ACTUAL internalized homophobia (because she thinks I have it now lmaaaao), was hearing similar stories to mine - gay people who were also struggling. It made me feel less alone and that I'm not the only one. The best stories for me were the ones about people who struggles for years and in the end things got better and they overcame it. It's not hearing people saying they love being gay and never had problems that will help me at all, because I won't be able to relate.

I feel like it's important to let people know it's okay not to be okay. And that not everyday we feel strong and that we're not "weak", "less of a person" or "morally inferior" because of that. We should let young gay people know as well that's it's okay if you're struggling.