To be quite frank, one of the things that would help a lot is dropping the TQ+ and reasserting ourselves as functioning normal members of society. I've spoken to people from these homophobic countries and they tell me a big part of why it is so hard to change their laws is because they look to the western world as a template for what would happen if they legalized being gay and they don't like what they see. To a lesser extent, this does also apply to women's rights. They see all the problems we see with TQ+ and apply it to the rest of LGBT and say to themselves "well if we legalize homosexuality, we too will end up with all their problems".