So this gay man found out he is dating a woman and wants to learn how to support her. Doesn't sound that bad right? HOWEVER the whole thing becomes really sinister if you read his comments which makes me think this is fake.

I am gay, and I definitely did have a moment about the genitals at first, but I kind of came to the conclusion that although it's something I will have to get used to, especially if he encorporates it into sex, it's not really a deal breaker? I'm attracted to men, and he has the qualities I generally find attractive in men in terms of style, hair (facial, body, etc) and presentation, and while I definitely enjoy dicks in certain contexts of sex, they're not the be all and end all for me if that makes sense. I've been with guys who were assigned male at birth who didn't want their dicks involved with sex too, and I also kind of realized that I wouldn't date/am not attracted to any women, including trans women, even if they have a penis, so it seemed weird for me personally to exclude a partner I really like and see a potential for a long future with on the basis of his genitals.

Conversion therapy bullshit. "Getting used to vagina". That's what gay men were forced to do for centuries. And if it doesn't matter if your date has dick or vag then you aren't gay.

I've actually had the thought that maybe this would be harder on me if I wasn't a top and had some particular attachment or attraction to the penis in general, but I don't know if that's weird or not weird.

I have seen shit like this in a thread here before. Somehow "top" means that vagina is no problem for gay men. What a load of bs.

I don't think it is at all. he presented himself as male because he is male, and when it came time to have sex, he disclosed the information. I don't see why trans people should have to lead with that when those of us who identify as our assigned sex don't.

OP is nuts and disgusting. A woman bullshitted her way into a relationship with a gay man and came out to him only when the clothes came off. OP claims that she did the right thing. But what about the stuff before like kissing and touching?? That's ok apparently even tho consent only existed through lies & deception.

OP even wrote that she told him that gay men ended the relationship because they found out she was a woman. So she did the same shit before. I feel sorry for these guys. They touched and kissed a woman because they were being lied to and this asshole pretends that it's ok because she told them the truth later.

Also his last sentence makes to sense. What should gay men disclose?? "To be honest...I have a penis." ??? Or what?? Bullshit, bullshit, bullshit.

I don't see how the existence of his vagina makes me no longer gay? I mean, I'd never had sex with someone with a vagina before because most people with vaginas identify as women, but he's still a man? like I wouldn't date a trans woman, regardless of if she had a penis or not, because I'm not into women, so...?

And there we have it. Exactly what the trans people invading lesbian & gay spaces are claiming. Note how he turned from "I want to learn" to "gays can be attracted to vag" which makes me think the thread is most likely trans fanfiction: Gay man learns to overcome his boundaries and becomes a good trans ally. 😒

thank you! I feel like unfortunately there isn't a lot of information in general and I feel like, as a gay male, there's a lot of transphobia in gay male circles unfortunately.

Aaaaand he is complaining about the gay community because gay men refuse vag and that's transphobic.

Either this thread is trans fanfiction or this gay man is out of his mind. His comments are full of homophobia.