You are fascinating and thanks for all of that information! I'm really sorry about what's happened to you; it sounds horrific.

I do think that American LGB and GC feminists need to unite right now about the Equality Act, because if the Democrats win the Senate and do what they did in the House just after the 2018 midterms, i.e., pass the Equality Act immediately, and Biden wins the presidency, women and gays could face the loss of our rights by early 2021.

And, sadly, I'm the wrong person to discuss radical or intersectional feminism because I know just about nothing about either, but there are some radical feminist posters over on s/gendercritical who probably could have a really enlightening discussion (on all sides) with you over your concerns. I don't know if there's a GC debate sub on SAIDIT, but that would be a good place for a discussion too.

I do know that the feminists I have met along the way, most of whom were non-ideological feminists like me, were some of the strongest and earliest supporters of gay rights. We were non-ideological in that we were just fighting for women's rights, and safety from male violence, and weren't reading every single feminist tract or wanting to move to an all-woman island or things of that sort.

We no-name feminists were also some of the women who helped gay men during the AIDS crisis, because we didn't hate all men and especially not gay men, who we felt often suffered under "male chauvinist pigs" in many of the same ways women did. I think I still have PTSD over the AIDS crisis because it did have such a devastating impact on my gay male friends.

BTW: The true superstar women of the AIDS crisis were lesbians, who risked everything to nurse often abandoned gay men, so it really pains me when some gay men today dump on lesbians.

And to your point about gay and GNC men also fearing male violence, you have every reason to, but you will not get pregnant and not be forced to carry and raise a child for almost two decades as a result of male violence.

That's where men just don't get it. They have no clue what it feels like to gestate another human being and how much it takes out of a woman's body, and then to give birth - which is aptly described as squeezing a watermelon out of your nose, then nurse, and then to nurture and feel responsible for the rest of your life. When the child is the result of rape you are seeing the reminder every single day.

BTW: I have always supported the draft for women. But it has to be sensitive to what women physically can and cannot do (yes, I know, that's considered anti-feminist) as well as women's sexual safety, because women in the US military have astoundingly high chances of being raped, mostly by serviceMEN.

Please do try to engage with some radfems, especially if you're American, because, again, American LGB and feminists of all stripes need to unite and fight the Equality Act right now or watch some of the rights we fought so valiantly for be stripped away by the Democrats and their blind devotion to Trans, Inc.