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[–]SeasideLimbs 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Lol, how is "wanting to have sex with a man because he has a fetish" different from sexual attraction?

It's different because the man in my example wants to have sex because he's aroused by humiliation, whereas a bisexual man can have sex with a man because he thinks "this man is hot."

I've never found a real guy hot. Never. Am I a "psuedohomosexual?"

If you've never found a real guy hot, yeah, that means you're not attracted to men.

Does this make me not really gay because I've never been attracted to the body of a real male, and definitely don't want to have a romantic relationship with one?

Yeah, honestly that in no way sounds like a gay man to me. If you're neither attracted to men nor want a romantic relationship with one, that's pretty much the textbook definition of someone who is not a gay man.

Psuedobisexuality isn't real, and it's offensive to bisexuals to say there's such thing as "Not being bisexual enough." And, once again,

You're still strawmanning what I'm actually saying, even after I explained to you in detail how pseudobisexuality is about the difference between fetishism and attraction rather than "not being bisexual enough."

To answer your example... that literally does not happen. Do you know what straight men with an anal humiliation fetish do? They get into "femdom", and seek out WOMEN to anally penetrate them with a strapon. These women do exist, so they have no reason to go for men. Those who seek out men do so because they ARE attracted to men, or else, they wouldn't do it. And speaking from experience, having sex with someone you're NOT sexually attracted to is very psychologically damaging. Even the most perverted of male, I think, would become very uncomfortable and would not be able to keep doing it.

That's provably false. Sissification communities, cuckold communities and other humiliation-based fetish communities are full of men who engage in and express interest in such activities. They have terms for it liked "forced bi" and they never show interest in men, only in somehow being degraded by men. Many cuckolding fetishists for example enjoy cleaning a man's penis after he had sex with their wives and being penetrated by him in front of their wives, but show no romantic attraction in men and no interest in having sexual interactions with them that aren't focused on humiliation.

So no, they ARE bisexual, since they express a desire with sex with men.

That's ridiculous and really homophobic. You are equating an interest in fetishistic acts with an attraction toward men.

This is why there are so many "trans lesbians" who want a "mommy dom."

How do you explain the large percentage of "trans women" who have been documented talking endlessly about how they want to "have their throats fucked hard" and "be treated like a worthless cumslut" and never show any interest in the man himself (neither sexual nor romantic) or any interest in a relationship with a man?

If humiliation and feminization fetishes made men go for men, they wouldn't be harassing women.

Of course they would. AGPs have proven time and time again that they are narcissistic and will demand anything they want from people with no shame and will declare people transphobic when they don't get it.

[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It's different because the man in my example wants to have sex because he's aroused by humiliation, whereas a bisexual man can have sex with a man because he thinks "this man is hot."

But as I said, that doesn't actually happen. Straight guys with a humiliation fetish enjoy being anally penetrated by women... bisexual males will go for men. It's that simple.

If you've never found a real guy hot, yeah, that means you're not attracted to men.

And if I'm exclusively attracted to penises? Isn't that same sex attraction, even on a very basic form? Sexuality labels are approximations, people experience this stuff differently.

Yeah, honestly that in no way sounds like a gay man to me. If you're neither attracted to men nor want a romantic relationship with one, that's pretty much the textbook definition of someone who is not a gay man.

Orientation is about sexual attraction. Not about "love."

You're still strawmanning what I'm actually saying, even after I explained to you in detail how pseudobisexuality is about the difference between fetishism and attraction rather than "not being bisexual enough."

Wanting to have sex with men is not fetishism. Fetishism is sexual responses to something that is not a person.

That's provably false. Sissification communities, cuckold communities and other humiliation-based fetish communities are full of men who engage in and express interest in such activities. They have terms for it liked "forced bi" and they never show interest in men, only in somehow being degraded by men. Many cuckolding fetishists for example enjoy cleaning a man's penis after he had sex with their wives and being penetrated by him in front of their wives, but show no romantic attraction in men and no interest in having sexual interactions with them that aren't focused on humiliation.

Most men into sissification are in fact gay or bisexual. Occassionally, yes, you will find straight ones, but once again those males will go for female "dominants" to humiliate or feminize them, not men. Just because some CLAIM to be straight, yet get off from gay sex, does not mean they are actually straight. You are literally trying to justify the "no homo" excuse here, lmfao.

Gay/bi males can be in denial, and men who are into "sissification" are so many levels of fucked up its not surprising they'd deny being gay or bisexual.

That's ridiculous and really homophobic. You are equating an interest in fetishistic acts with an attraction toward men.

Actually, you're pretty homophobic and disrespectful for insisting that homosexuality is this PG-13, squeaky clean idea of fairytale "love." Sometimes it is about sex. By insisting it's about "love" you're actually excluding a lot of people. I have had a lot of guys interested in me and not one of them has ever expressed love or affection. It can actually be rather rare.

How do you explain the large percentage of "trans women" who have been documented talking endlessly about how they want to "have their throats fucked hard" and "be treated like a worthless cumslut" and never show any interest in the man himself (neither sexual nor romantic) or any interest in a relationship with a man?

Easy. They are gay in denial. They ARE attracted to men sexually but they believe it's shameful for them to do so, and don't pursue relationships because they are too embarassed, or even that they think of themselves in such a low way (re: wanting to be sexually abused) that they think they don't deserve relationships.

Or, they might be like me and just may not like males romantically.

There are also some cases of MTFs who like "girl dick" or other trans, but show no interest in regular males. This is not "psuedobisexuality", this is still bisexuality or homosexuality, just with a focus on mixed sex traits. This isn't actually THAT rare, and I have actually met many non-trans people who happen to only be interested in feminine males, androgynous people, or masculine women.

Of course they would. AGPs have proven time and time again that they are narcissistic and will demand anything they want from people with no shame and will declare people transphobic when they don't get it.

Well, they'd harass them in other ways, yes, but I specifically meant sexual harassment. If fetishistic straight MTFs always had to have sex with men for their humilation fetish, they wouldnt whine about women not fucking them and specifically show sexual interest in women. But a lot of them show interest in ONLY women, and some show interest in both sexes. Some are entirely gay. They are males. Them being trans, that is, being part of a dangerous ideology and fetish, does not make them aliens. They are as capable of being any sexuality as anyone else.

[–]SeasideLimbs 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

But as I said, that doesn't actually happen. Straight guys with a humiliation fetish enjoy being anally penetrated by women... bisexual males will go for men. It's that simple.

Except they don't. Humiliation fetishists are driven by a desire for humiliation. Being humiliated by men is oftentimes more arousing to them because it's a man "proving his superiority" over them. Hence why cuckolding fetishes are so common among them. I honestly have no idea where you are taking the idea from. Have you ever talked to them? Have you ever spent time in their communities? Cause I have and many of them admit freely that they are only attracted to women but are aroused by having a man humiliate them.

And if I'm exclusively attracted to penises?

I don't know, that's not enough to go off of. But if you have no sexual or romantic interest in men otherwise like you said, chances are it's something other than a sexual orientation.

Sexuality labels are approximations, people experience this stuff differently.

That sounds a lot like the "it's just a preference" rhetoric that TRAs like to use. For homosexual people it's generally pretty simple. They are romantically and sexually attracted to people of the same sex.

Orientation is about sexual attraction. Not about "love."

Neither of which you have. Quote: "Does this make me not really gay because I've never been attracted to the body of a real male" and "I've never found a real guy hot. Never."

Wanting to have sex with men is not fetishism. Fetishism is sexual responses to something that is not a person.

I'm not gonna explain this to you again. The guy in my example had sex with a man for a reason that was not a person: humiliation. Men like these exist and you pulling stuff out of your behind about them supposedly "becoming traumatized from it" and then continuing to contradict yourself by saying "they wouldn't do it anyways because they only want to be humiliated by women" isn't going to change that. A simple look at their communities proves this.

Most men into sissification are in fact gay or bisexual.

Literally provably false:

Transvestism: A Survey of 1032 Cross-Dressers

"One thousand and thirty-two male periodic cross-dressers (transvestites) responded to an anonymous survey patterned after Prince and Bentler's (1972) report. With few exceptions, the findings are closely related to the 1972 survey results. Eighty-seven percent described themselves as heterosexual."

Body, gender, sexuality and subjectivity among men who practice cross-dressing

"Although some crossdressers do have same sex relationships, preferentially or exclusively, most people I have met in the field identify as heterosexual."

I don't have an issue with engaging with people for a long time if their intentions are good. The fact that you are blatantly lying now and continuing to misrepresent what I and others have been saying makes me think this might not be the case here. I think I've made my points clearly enough and don't want to spend more time on this issue than is necessary, especially not when it's about someone who is explicitly not homosexual himself trying to equate fetishism with sexual orientations. I've had enough homophobia from TRAs. I don't need any more of it here.