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This is disgusting. The implication that you should stay with your SO post-transition erases gender-based love. Such a sickening step backwards.

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[–]PlayCardsNotPeople 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

I'm confused.
I thought we'd reached a conclusion, that sexuality is based on sex, not on gender.

[–]abc-noah-is-me[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Serious or /s?

Sex and gender are two different things. One is biological, the other social, and they do not necessarily line up for any given person. Sexuality can be based on either. Nvm that most rainbow people say "gay men should date FTMs, because they're men, not women" (and vice versa). By that logic, if your partner transitions to your non-attracted gender, you could and should break up with them.

[–]annatheginguh 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Read the sidebar of this sub:

Our orientations are based towards an individual's sex, not gender identity.

Even still, I feel like the rules are a little different in an established relationship. If I was married to a woman and she discovered she was trans and wanted to transition, I don’t think I could I dump her just like that. It would be hard, but I know I wouldn’t be able to be that cruel.

[–]abc-noah-is-me[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yes, but that would make the majority hypocrites, because if they believe that orientation is in fact gender-based, you should dump your partner if they transition to a non-oriented gender. Denial of that fact is literally forcing gay men (lesbians) to be with women (men), which is exactly what we all fought for YEARS against. I don't consider myself LGBDropTheT, but I didn't know where else to post this (and get a positive reaction).

[–]zeusdx1118 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It wouldn't be cruel. It would be biology.