My issue is the inequality of it and how it's rooted in him looking down on me and being outright disgusted by me engaging in a sex act with someone with a penis, while he is entirely unphased if it's someone with a vagina. As if I am less than because of it, have less worth and am less desirable.

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His preoccupation with fear of other guys cum sounds more homophobic than misogynist tbh.

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He is currently "pondering" the extent that I need to clean my face after getting cum on it before he kisses me. I completely accept and understand not wanting to physically interact with another man's cum and I wouldn't dream of fighting that, but I asked if he'd be fine with me using baby wipes to clean my face, or if he is expecting that I do full on face soap and water before he kisses me. He said he wasn't sure and he needed to ponder it. I'm not going to lie, this just pissed me off.