I think people unfairly expect women to be perfect, with an unspoken but obvious rule that any flaw or error of a woman can be perceived as an excuse to abuse her (to any varying degree of abuse.) Sometimes making it seem like she "deserves" it.

This is a lot of what I think toxic female gender roles are about. It isn't just femininity either, it's every type of expectation for a woman to be perfect, judged by other women, even masculine women or tomboys.

But no, I don't think it's unequal to associate men with negativity. When our real experience with men has been negative, we are just telling the truth.

It's not equality to silence that truth. Equality would be ending abuse and violence against women. The one way I might agree is, that a lot of women hate other women. Some women abuse other women. I think that also is part of our oppression.

But our lack of perfection or lack of being perfect little angels, shouldn't be an excuse to let toxic men off the hook.