I think they're in that category of pervert, deviant, sexual fetishist. That is a category in public consciousness. Which isn't a good one. It's also ambiguous in that it covers very mild things to sexual criminality.

True, but I still think it's pretty peripheral. Most people are never going to encounter a straight crossdresser, at least not that they know of. I would guess the vast majority of people just never spend time thinking about it.

I thinking of another one recently. "What do you think is going to happen to the politics of gender in the Western world in the coming years."

That one's good, too. It's weird because I was just looking at an old article from 2008 that foresaw our current predicament. It seems like conservatives correctly predicted the future in this case.

It's like I'm attracted to being feminine and attracted to dominant women. I see trans woman and think that's not me.

Like dresses and makeup, or something else? What does being feminine mean to you? I'm assuming it turns you on. I think that's one huge differences between males and females.

But then there is that background question. Is masculinity/femininity a thing in itself?

I know we've debated this before, but I don't believe it would develop into a thing outside of a gendered society. If we all had shaved heads and lived naked in the woods, there would be no gender. There would still be people who are more towards one end of the spectrum than the other, but it would not be remarkable and no one would think of themselves as GNC because certain behaviors would not be associated with one's sex.

But I can see the appeal of masculinity, I mean what others find attractive about masculinity. And I see masculinity in others, including women. I recognise that as a form of masculinity.

I can't really see it. I think neutrality is best. Femininity is harmful, and masculinity can also be toxic. If I consider myself a masculine woman it is only in relation to our society's norms, and I reject the harmful parts of cultural masculinity.

That makes sense. But women aren't as likely to commit sex crimes and I guess there is the physical threat aspect too.

Exactly, men are overwhelmingly the ones who sexually offend and have penises and superior strength to do it with. Even though GNC women, particularly butch lesbians, have sometimes been seen as potential abusers and corrupters, it's never been to the same extent as males.

Have you met transmen?

Not outside of Reddit. I wouldn't have anything against them on a personal level, but I don't think it would be healthy for me to form friendships with trans men. I have tons of internalized misogyny and male ideation. Being around other females who disavow being female would not be remotely good for me. I'm sure they don't want me to shove my issues on them, either.

The lack of debate annoys me. I'd be more in the trans realist camp. I think the suppression is having negative effects. But I'm also aware that there is an anti trans backlash going on. Maybe I feel it here more in the UK.

Hard to tell it's happening in the USA outside of GC spaces. The mainstream media and corporations are so heavily on board with silencing those who disagree and ignoring any stories that don't fit their narrative. Meanwhile the mainstream public has been kept mostly ignorant of what's going on

Are you worried for what the coming backlash will mean for you as a crossdresser? Have you experienced people thinking you are a trans woman and treating you badly or assuming you have certain views because of it?