Bisexual women are being failed by their partners: Bi women dating cis straight men are the least likely to be out and here’s why

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[–]PenseePansy 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Really appreciate this post, OP. Lots to comment on here, but a couple things stand out for me:

  • Bi men, as well as bi women, are usually partnered with straight people. This is the result of sheer math (they're the vast majority), plus the fact that we tend not to be out, which makes a bi-preferred dating policy pretty unworkable.
  • Having straight partners, at least in the current climate (where ignorance about/prejudice toward bisexuality prevails), is likely to cause problems for us. Especially since straight people are, in effect, the only game in town (gay people being far less numerous, and also prone to bi-unfriendly attitudes of their own).
  • Therefore, one solution would be more bi/bi pairings... which would require our being out (at least enough to find each other), and spaces to facilitate dating within our own community. Does this prospect appeal to anyone else? Any ideas as to how we could effectively promote coming out, and what kind of settings would help us get together?

[–]MarkJefferson[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Totally agree on the first 2 points above.

Therefore, one solution would be more bi/bi pairings... which would require our being out (at least enough to find each other), and spaces to facilitate dating within our own community. Does this prospect appeal to anyone else? Any ideas as to how we could effectively promote coming out, and what kind of settings would help us get together?

I think some rl locations- bi bars like the one usehername brought up is a potential setting for bi's meeting other bi's... and websites. I don't use dating apps, but from my preliminary research, none of them are designed specifically for bisexuals anyways. Most of them are either exclusively for one sex or the other(ie. gay-centric) or are mixed sex but open to "queer" people, which really could be anyone straight. There's no guaranteed way to filter out monosexuals(especially heterosexuals), but a bi-centric dating app/site is sorely needed nonetheless. This sounds presumptuous, but I think it's very existence can incentive people to come out. There needs to be places for bisexuals with the least likelihood of prejudice. I mean, it's in no ways guaranteed to be that way even with 100% bisexuals(some can be just as bad), but it'd be as good as it can get and that's what I think should be aimed for. I'm just not sure how we could go about it from this juncture, but this is all just brainstorming.