I am a doomer ama

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[–]Antarchomachus 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I used to feel this way, but I learned how have a healthier outlook about these things.

Yes, society is inherently bad, and civilization is probably collapsing - but who cares, fuck them anyway.

When society did something stupid, and I felt like we did it, it made me 'doomy'.

You need to stop thinking about society in terms of 'we', and think about it as a feature of your environment like a mountain or a river. This way you can put emotional distance between those negative thoughts that you rightfully have, and your own feelings. You are only a doomer if you are emotionally invested in the well-being of civilization, which I would say you shouldn't be if you hold those beliefs about it's inherent 'badness'.

I truly hope something I said helps you, I know from personal experience that the mindset of 'doomering' is not good for your psychological health, and can be tough to get out of.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Well, since each of us has some kind of stake invested in society and no man is an island, the prejudices and conflicts of the modern system and society will eventually trickle down to the small guy at some point. Especially in the modern age of weaponry, you can vaporize or slowly kill a man living alone from hundreds of miles away.

Humans are also biologically wired to socialize and build communities of other people.

[–]Antarchomachus 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Let me try to explain myself better, because I agree with what you are saying.

The point I am attempting to make is about taking on the psychological burden of an entire society

This isn't healthy, and can make you fucking depressed.

Ultimately I can't control human civilization as a whole, just like I can't control the height of a mountain. I wouldn't identify the mountain with any type of internal 'we', even if I live on the mountain and have a stake in it. Civilization is external in the same way, but it isn't even a real 'thing', it is just a concept. Taking on the psychological burden for all of humanity is too much, and it is ultimately a choice. For me a change in the way I related myself to society was helpful in relieving this burden. Yes I care about the state of the society I live in, and my choices matter - but my choices are all that I can control and be responsible for.

I am merely relating to OP what was helpful to me in achieving a healthier outlook for my own life, as I know this can be a difficult thing to struggle with.