Rejection

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[–]Comatoast 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Rejection is an opportunity to avoid someone that's probably a piece of shit anyway. It sucks, but you just cry the crocodile tears of defeat and consider it evading a shit situation. Spoiled ass people don't have the ability to deal with things not going their way, case in point--Cuomo.

[–]privatejoker11 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Rejection is an opportunity to avoid someone that's probably a piece of shit anyway.

Oh really? Let's follow that train down the track a ways. Rejection is mostly something men have to deal with. It is not merely not getting with the person you fancy, which women also sometimes experience (goodness me, it's a cruel world). No, rejection is the painful conclusion to the process of putting yourself out there (for the benefit of any errant female readership - I emphasize that this is indeed painful to men who are sincere but lack experience and natural game) only to be snubbed, often in humiliating ways that further impede your odds of future coupling in your particular milieu. And women have social license to be cruel if they wish, especially if they catch a whiff of so-called "neediness." The burden of performance is entirely and always on the man, unless he's a Chad. And most of the time, most men get rejected by most of the women they fancy and approach.

So, are you saying all those fanciable women who reject all those less-than-Chadly men are probably pieces of shit? Or maybe, like soon-to-be-former-governor Cuomo, they are just "spoiled ass people"?

[–]Comatoast 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I don't know everything, and I'm aware of that so everything I say is just personal interpretation based on experiences that I've had or watched.

Well, you're right-- anyone can experience rejection, and it is more likely that it's men that are putting themselves out there for. However, it does happen to women too. It's enough to put a chip on one's shoulder, but there's lessons that have to be learned in life and they're usually not fun or easy to experience. The spoiled part is the lack of being able to accept that someone else doesn't have mutual feelings, and holding onto the rejection. The "piece of shit" aspect was probably more harsh than I intended it to seem. Since y'all can't read my mind-- to clarify, I mean that if someone rejects hypothetical you, it's a bullet dodged (not always, obviously). Whatever the criterium was in their head, you didn't meet. You could attempt to make effort to prove that person's assumptions wrong and end up being perfect together, but usually when you're persistent about it that's when it comes off as needy. There's all sorts of society rules for this crap that I can't even pretend to fully understand, psychological variables, etc. That, and when you're talking about the high point of social rejection, high school, there's all sorts of other things in the way. In my experience, social status within that setting always took precedence over physical attractiveness. People during that point that have higher social value can get away with looking and treating others like dogs. It's like a weird hierarchical system based on nepotism, so even if you're not Chad or Stacy you'll still get a decent selection just by being in proximity to them.

Being young fucking blows. No one takes you seriously, the social hierarchy is a battlefield with rules that change on the fly, and rejection exists in every social aspect of life that you go into through your 20s. You just have to sort of eat it and figure out how to play the system for that. Romantic rejection is just more about figuring out how to sift your options better, and putting effort into the potential interests that actually carry value (similar interests, life experiences, things you want from life) vs base level things like status, wealth or appearance.