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[–]3xk_Nig_HanxXx 12 insightful - 9 fun12 insightful - 8 fun13 insightful - 9 fun -  (4 children)

whatever you do to her please have a good camera

[–]Jaylou 7 insightful - 4 fun7 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 4 fun -  (2 children)

I fucking hate this site.

[–]High_and_Lonesome 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

This kind of humor is what I miss about classic WPD.

[–]Jaylou 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I dunno I think when I came here I was in a very very bad place in my life, I found it all fascinating and could put up with any comments. I just don't think I'm there any more and it's time to go. I'm sure I won't be even slightly missed but bye anyway you crazy fucks!!

[–]0w0 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

I love this

[–]finster 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Hiya,

I just signed up for saidit to respond to this. First of all, double congratulations on your newborns. You're fortunate to have them healthy and at home. I'm going to write a few things that may help you to feel better.

One is that many cultures over centuries have been putting children to sleep on their bellies. It is a characteristic position for a human to be in. It is commonly seen that newborns placed on their mother's belly will crawl to the breast and start to suck. During times of alertness, being on their bellies is an important developmental situation in which babies start lifting their head, looking around and reaching toward objects. Later, from the same position, they learn to roll, to crawl, to come up to sit. It is only to be expected they will fall asleep in this position as well.

If you allow the babies to be on their bellies, at times they will fall asleep.

Last time I looked, the CDC guidance was that many SIDS deaths are associated with babies sleeping on soft sofa or other improvised bed with an inebriated parent, and associated with situations where the baby may end up being smothered by sheets or blankets. (For similar reasons, some experts advise against co-sleeping, another practice that has continued throughout human history.) SIDS is also more common when the babies are premature or have medical issues. From what I understand these are your biggest risk factors to consider.

In other words the SIDS risk is not only from being in a particular position, but also the situation in the house and the baby's age and overall health.

Mothers everywhere decide what they feel safe with. Since moms and babies need their rest and since many babies fall asleep easily on their tummies, that can be an influencing factor.

There may be factors from the family history to consider. Did her parents put their babies to sleep on their bellies? Does your wife sleep on her belly? Where did she get the idea to do it, when so many people (not necessarily always rightly) advise against it?

Because of their unusual start to life, twins do deserve extra attention. You didn't write how old they are or at what week they were born. One thing you can watch is whether your babies, when resting on their bellies, are able to turn their head from one side to the other. This is an important milestone. It means if their face is covered by a sheet or blanket, they can turn away from it and probably get access to air. Also, if they get tired from resting their head on one side, they can change position themselves. So you can be more confident as soon as observe that your babies are capable of turning their heads.

Of course it's better to be nearby when they're on their bellies. At night, they might be on their bellies a couple hours between feedings, which could be tolerable if you see they handle the position well during the day.

[–]snep 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Best I can think of is that one scene from Trainspotting

[–]fullcircling 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

call a paramedic or hospital and have them explain it to her. my old roommates infant died from this exact thing. you dont ever ever ever want to see a 3 month old turn blue. what do you have to lose and what do you have to gain from laying them on their backs and not their bellies. i know the risk, because ive seen it first hand. whatever you have to do to get it through her thick skull. call the same people that you would have to call if the worst were to happen. they'll set her straight.

[–]xellos 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

next time you go to bed tell your wife to lay face down on your bed, then lie down on top of her. tell her that's how hard it is for a baby to breathe bellies down because their head muscles and diaphram/lungs are still developing. maybe then she'll get it

[–]lilwayne42 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

The closest I can find is videos about mothers after the fact. This video hammers the point down quite well. I couldn't find any videos with dead babies filmed still laying on their stomach after dying. The most I could find was grieving mothers with PSA's attached.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zFeqzv-K5C0

The doctor in that video is pretty great.

[–]oozinator1 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Adding to this, if there is footage, it'd likely be caught by "baby cam" or "nanny cam", but many such devices are set up out of the box to start recording only when there is motion in the room for a certain duration.

Since SIDS happens suddenly and the babies are found to have died without struggling in their sleep, it is unlikely that cameras like these would catch the whole thing seamlessly. Realistically, you'd end up with two videos: one with the parent putting the child to sleep, and one of the parent freaking out when they find their baby unresponsive.

[–]niggastolemybike 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Jesus Christ

[–]Sacksmack 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

My wife ended up buying an Owlet Smart Sock. I can't say it's a foolproof idea because it depends on your phone working properly.

[–]High_and_Lonesome 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Its weird. Why wont she just put the baby on his or her back?

[–]aboutthednm 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I imagine babies are not stationary objects, and tend to roll over