Because girls do not engage in sadism/masochism with chad unless they are the masochist, not otherwise.

The men that girls want e.g. their boyfriends are never also the people they engage in fights with. And they also never shit-test them, never mock anything about them etc. If a girl is doing this to you, she is not attracted and it's that simple. An insult contest with a girl might feel liberating, but afterwards she will never talk to you again, so it doesn't yield all that much.

If you have been exposed to the bad side of women, you are in the loser category.