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[–]OPStolen[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

also, after this, all my credit cards will be paid off by June 11 and I can finally start saving money again. I'm super stoked.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Really good shit on those credit cards man, just don't get yourself in trouble again buying 3 year supplies of everything, lol

[–]OPStolen[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

i have to complete another year of school to finish both my bachelor's degrees because i spent the last three semesters crying in my room, jerking off, and getting social anxiety because i feel like a freak after jerking off. This summer, I have to 100% get my mind off porn, fix my nicotine tolerance so I can get a quick boost in class by doing snus, fix my bank account balances before the iphone 15 comes out, and lose 20lbs of weight.

I have no clue if i can do it. Every summer, I say I will and I end up in a cycle. I wake up, make myself a high protein breakfast, convince myself I need to jerk off to fully wake up, skip going to the gym because I don't want to see people after I jerk off, and then end up in my room drinking myself to sleep because I'm pissed I'm jerking off instead of having a woman with cute nails.

I don't know what to do different this time. I've spent the last two months jerking off 4 times a day, it hurts when i ejaculate and my penis is shedding skin. I haven't gone to class in a month and my grades are F's across the board. If I could JUST stop porn, I could get my head together and finish my education and get a real job and plan a trip to mexico to fuck underaged, sex trafficked latinas. But, I can't get past two days.

I need all the hope i can get.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You can obviously take my advice worth a grain of salt, but it sounds like you are struggling with this, so I'll offer my two cents.

For starters, I think you may want to consider either an approach of moderation, or an approach where you make easier changes a little at a time to improve your chances of success and reinforce your confidence in your self-control. Jumping from one extreme to another like you are attempting to do is very easy to fail at, and then you just give up on any kind of self-control.

Personally, I don't think jerking off is worth feeling this guilty over, its absolutely normal, and even guys with girlfriends do it, though not as often. Though I realize guilt is a somewhat involuntary thing we don't have total control over. If you don't jack off at all, you will likely spend even more time thinking about sex or thinking about not jacking off, or failing and totally giving up on any kind of self control at all.

Now what isn't good is if you masturbate so much it takes up all your time and it hurts your body and grades and life. Jacking off once is not the end of the world, don't give up on your attempts to control yourself, just cut yourself some slack and keep working at it. You can also try working up to this - no jacking off until you go to the gym, since this is a cause of anxiety for you, then you can indulge. Like just start with something that you can actually accomplish, because you will feel good about your self control, and this will help you reinforce your ability to do it again and cut back more on excessive habits

Anyways, thats my advice, make small manageable changes to build yourself up, and aim for moderation rather than total abstinence, at least at first

[–]greybeard 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

But, I can't get past two days.

You are an addict with a stash in his house for bad times because surely he is over it now. What you have to do it to give your internet router to friends/ parents, delete you porn collection and be completely disconnected at home.

Learn how to use either wkhtmltopdf or normal "print to pdf" in every browser to get all the materials you need for class in the library. Go there every 3 days to get new stuff you need.

But my studying will be less efficient if I can't quickly look things up

True, the effect should be around 15%, that is easily offset by the 95% penalty of starting to jerk off every time you want to study. It's a huge net benefit

I'll become even more of a shut in if I disable internet on my phone

Good, take extra measures to join some club or regular activities and show up to class. Net benefit, again.

Think yourself if you are really serious about finishing your bachelor's degree and be prepared that all the counterarguments your mind will conjure up will seem 500% more convincing due to your addiction reinforceing them.

[–]AnimeRespecter 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

idk why you would need to lose 20lbs of fat before the summers over, or get an iphone 15. Seems like your youre putting more on yourself than is necessary.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

get a real job and plan a trip to mexico to fuck underaged, sex trafficked latinas.

get a real job and plan a trip to mexico to fuck underaged, sex trafficked latinas.

get a real job and plan a trip to mexico to fuck underaged, sex trafficked latinas.

get a real job and plan a trip to mexico to fuck underaged, sex trafficked latinas.

Go fuck yourself, you piece of absolute human garbage. Do what you've thought about and take yourself out of existence before you hurt someone. Fuck you. Fuck anyone who gives you an insightful vote piece of shit.