Someone on the old GC sub recommended The Dance of Anger to me, and it is really good. Written by a radfem therapist from the midwest, so she knows what she is talking about.

The gist of it is that our anger gets misplaced because we don't get any practice with anger as girls. So we get caught up in expressing it or bottling it, rather than using it. Instead of focusing on expression/lack thereof, she recommends analyzing it to figure out what made you mad. Then express what you are going to do that addresses your feelings.

Simple example: Instead of arguing with your husband about whether you should be able to do XYZ, recognize you are mad because he's trying to control what you do. Then tell him calmly as you can that you are going to do what you want, and it's not up for further discussion. It will cause him to get upset and maybe act out if he isn't used to it from you, but that is how to handle angry feelings, according to her.

I am not all the way through, that's just based on the early chapters. I really like it so far, though!