Most women have mountains of unrealized potential. If women are told from birth that they’re stupid, that they don’t have any talent, that all the smart and talented people are men, that the only things that matter for them are being pretty and nice, a lot of them going to end up internalizing that idea and just focusing on being pretty and nice, and effectively becoming stupid. That’s why there are so many pickmeishas out there.

I, unfortunately, was the Queen of Pickmeishas during high school. I would talk openly about how men are superior to women. I thought it was okay for me to believe that tripe because I was sort of “trans” and didn’t really consider myself “one of those stupid girls.” It’s extremely painful for me to look back on now. And yet, at the time, it seemed easier and less agonizing than accepting the horrific realities of misogyny.

The truth is that women, if we can pull ourselves out of the traps that society sets for us—but just a few of them being low self-esteem, hyperfocus on our physical appearances, fixation on males, desperation for male approval, etc.—we could do ANYTHING. We could do SO MUCH MORE than men can do. I’m a musician and my music is infinitely better than that of all the male musicians I’ve known. The female musicians and artists I know are all incredible, too. We make amazing and mind-blowing stuff that men could NEVER think to make. It’s just not in them.

I’ve wasted years of my life being depressed about worthless guys who fucked me over, psychologically broke me and made me unable to accomplish as much cool shit as I could have. I wish I had never gotten involved with any of those guys. I wish someone had warned me. I wish I had had a badass radical feminist aunt propping me up from a young age, telling me that I was awesome, that I could do anything I set my mind to, and more. But I didn’t. I could have done so much better in school, done so much better in life so far, if I had. But I didn’t. And that’s okay. I have the rest of my life ahead of me and I know the truth now. I’ll never look back. (And if you have little girls in your life, please try to be that badass aunt figure for them.)

Radical feminism is the only key that can release you from the prison in which you’ve been locked. Discovering r/Pinkpillfeminism was eye-opening for me. All of these women weren’t only verbalizing my thoughts that had been simmering under the surface for a long time—they were also all ridiculously smart, well-read, fantastic at writing, logical, philosophical. There is absolutely a correlation there. Radical feminism is what makes you finally put all the bullshit behind you and unlock your potential. Maybe it was wasted for years, decades, but it doesn’t matter. Now you see reality, and you can do it. You can live your life the way you always deserved.

Never listen to what the patriarchy says. Always remember that men are the stupid and untalented ones. Not only that; they’re evil. They commit most of the evil in the world. They’re violent and aggressive. Their minds are half-formed because they have a shriveled, malformed Y chromosome. They’re like giant children, stumbling around the world, having the audacity to think that they’re equal to women or better. They are not.

Never believe that old “all the great artists and scientists and writers have been males!” fallacy. Women were denied access to education because men knew that if women received an equal education to men, we would eventually surpass them (this process has begun to take place). Women who have achieved tremendous academic and artistic heights throughout history have been ignored. Women have been mocked for trying to do something meaningful with their lives, as women. Women have had their accomplishments stolen, all the credit falsely allocated to men who did nothing.

And of romantic and sexual attachments: I won’t get involved with men anymore. I’ve decided to equate men, in my mind, with drugs, like cocaine or whatever. Do I want to do it? Hell yes. Should I do it? Is it good for me? Has it ever been good for me before? Hell no, on all counts. So I just won’t do it. I’m an adult now and I refuse to take shit from any man ever again. And they’ll all try to give me shit. All of them. But they don’t matter because I’m above them. We, women, are above them. r/Pinkpillfeminism has helped me understand that. Thank you.