apparently that's considered consensual when it's clear they don't want to and have to be talked/pressured/guilted into it.

Apparently it's considered consensual when I go off to work too 🙁

Not all consent is enthusiastic consent. People often have to be convinced, talked, pulled, pushed, pressured, guilted and sometimes even threatened into doing things that they otherwise don't want to do.

I don't think that my wife wants to do the ironing, but she does it because somebody has to and that's how we agreed to divide up the chores.