Interesting, the definition I just came across is from a conversation on a lesbian only discord server I'm a part of. Some of the women were talking about comphet claiming they'd convince themselves they were having heterosexual crushes, would mistake fear and anxiety for butterflies around them and at the same time would mistake adoration of females for deep friendships. So, they repressed homosexual desire while lying to themselves that whatever they felt for men was indeed how desire "should" feel. They'd tell people they were really into this boy or that when asked by friends, but for "some reason" would never want to actually flirt with them or date them. It was a crush with zero desire for action past the thought they'd tell themselves of "ah yes I have a crush on that boy."

The part that doesn't make sense for me may just be because I'm the kind of person that is very sure of my feelings? I've never gotten fear confused with desire, and I've never felt the need to try and force myself to be attracted to anyone. It's obvious to me when I see females as more than just friends because it feels so good to be around them, I constantly want to talk to them, constantly have an urge to touch them when in physical proximity to them, fantasise about being with them when zoning out, even dreaming when it's a hardcore crush. Which I think is normal for teenagers filled with Hormones. But I've literally never even felt very interested in a man intellectually, apart from David Bowie, let alone any of those other markers, and while I understand some people may mature later than others these women were talking about having these so called crushes ages 19-25 and by that point as a lesbian I think you'd have had a serious, strong female crush right? It just kind of baffles me. And these are women in the UK, and while I don't deny there is lesbophobia everywhere it's not like they're from an extreme place.