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[–]emilyprentiss 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I’m 22, I really enjoyed it. I wouldn’t have taken Harper back either, especially when Aubrey Plaza is out there looking like that!

I personally felt Harper was very relatable because I too grew up in an upper middle class household that is concerned about appearances and reputation. Not as intensely as her family is in the movie, I feel like that’s exaggerated anyway, but definitely, the reason why I haven’t come out is because being gay wasn’t ‘part of the plan’ (quote Harper) and I’m afraid it’ll ‘disappoint’ my family more than anything. I started bawling when Harper started crying during the Christmas party scene. That to me felt incredibly cathartic, and I felt seen and understood.

I get the frustration from the fact that lesbian and gay movies always revolve around the closet, the anxiety of coming out, and/or past opposite-sex partners creeping up. But that to me is a big part of many of our lives, and I don’t think it’s ‘tiring’ to watch.

I think our problem is that we have so few lesbian movies, that we put a lot of pressure on each of them to be as good as possible so it is a hit and we get the money and resources to make more. But no movie is ever going to be perfect. No straight movie is really that great, if you think about it. They just don’t have that ‘make or break’ pressure. If you as a straight person didn’t like Love, Actually, you still had The Holiday, Last Christmas, Ghosts of Girlfriends Past, and 8272628 other straight Christmas romantic movies to choose from. Hopefully this will get better with time as we make more lesbian movies of different varieties, so we can all have more options. I think this movie is definitely a good start. :)