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[–]lovelyspearmint 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I'm a bit older, mid-twenties but I didn't realise I was a lesbian until I was about 20 or so. There's a very small dating pool where I live, and most dating apps are covered in transbians, bicurious women or 'lesbians' who have photographs of themselves kissing guys. I've also got a health condition which makes it difficult for me to live with someone and we would have to live separately, which isn't everyone's cup of tea.

The best way to look at it is to realise you've still got a lot for life ahead of you. Hopefully things will change for the better when you move to Canada, but the important thing is to not get hung up on not having anyone. You're at a disadvantage to begin with, since (actual) lesbians only make up a tiny amount of the population, not to mention a lot are either closeted or try to seem straight.

Right now, dating is very difficult with the TQ brigade messing everything up, so perhaps by the time you're in the dating pool, people will be over that shit and you'll have a chance to meet someone decent :) Good luck!!!

[–]RedVelvetCake[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight! It really sucks to hear that dating apps are dominated by people who aren't lesbians. Theoretically, dating apps would make our lives so much easier but unfortunately, that isn't really the case. And given the current climate with the trans movement in the West, I'd also feel unsafe to actively look for a girlfriend if I were there...

And I'm sorry to hear about your health condition, I hope you're doing well! Wishing you all the best!