Am I a lesbian?

Hydiee · 2020-09-29T03:57:15+00:00

This kind of post breaks rule #6 but I'll answer anyway. Maybe you're bisexual

carrotcake · 2020-09-29T03:56:18+00:00

If you are sexually attracted to men, but you don't want to date them, you could call yourself a febfem: female exclusive bisexual female. Usually it's bi women that have a strong preference for women and only feel like they could be happy in a relationship with another women so they make a choice not to be with men. I don't know how it works if they fall in love with a man, whether they just stop calling themselves febfems or if it happens they'll just run away from the guy... But yeah I guess if you're bi even with a preference for women you could end up with a guy. That doesn't mean that your attraction to women is a phase though. But if, differently than you implied, are not sexually attracted to men, you are a lesbian and that's not a phase. Maybe this could explain the feelings you have when you think about a relationship with a man but that's not necessarily the only answer in my eyes.

Probably your post will be deleted though. Good luck figuring yourself out.

TalerTest · 2020-09-29T06:11:30+00:00

Well I'll go off your first comment

If I'm a lesbian, it was when I started taking "Am I lesbian" quizzes and having fantasies about being with women. And getting turned on by women lately.

You say you are getting turned on by women lately and you're not a teenager. If you've only just discovered that you are attracted to women and previously your attraction has been to men, I'd say you are bisexual.

edit: spelling oops

Loil · 2020-09-29T08:49:01+00:00

You say that you like women more than men, instead of only women. So, I'll agree with the others who say you are bisexual with a preference for women.

cokolada90 · 2020-09-29T04:28:41+00:00

Are you a teenager?

Don't let people on the internet tell you what your sexuality / gender is. They can't possibly know. They do not know you. Especially if they are older than you, or trying to tell you something you don't quite feel comfortable with
It is very normal to not know your what your sexuality is when you're young.
A label may or may not work for you, and ultimately it doesn't really matter because love is love.
I think teens these days feel like they have to attach themselves to a label and stick to it like glue. Q used to stand for questioning as well as queer, it's ok to not have it all worked out. There's something great about being a teenager and discovering sexuality because you're in this space of wonder, curiosity, experimentation.
Stating a label does not mean that you consent to anything and can't say 'no' later. If you say you are straight that does not mean you consent to sex with someone because they are a man.
The brain keeps developing until it's 25.
Some things we learn from experience.
If you don't feel like having sex with someone that is a very good reason to say no. Nobody should pressure you into having sex.
If a relationship isn't working out for you, it's ok to just break up.
There's no rush to work all this out. Take your time and don't worry about it. Things will sort themselves out in time.

Lavalanche17 · 2020-09-29T06:07:13+00:00

if you are still sexually attracted to men youre bi. Bi with a preference for women.

lmaonope333 · 2020-09-29T05:42:05+00:00

either your a lesbian or you're a bisexual with a preference for women. also rule 6

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