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[–]Seahorse 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Interesting take OP.

Anything involving fluidity and sex will get the pitch forks out however because that's what the queer crowd wants to indoctrinate gays with.

Hopefully this debate will fade as bisexual women try and cultivate their own culture and stop masquerading as lesbians.

[–]Skipdip[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yes I agree. I don’t like how this push back to the queer homophobia has resulted in needless infighting. Not everyone has fluidity, but some people do. Some straight people do and some lesbian/gay people do. I am defining fluidity as the ability to perform the mechanical action of intimacy, which is how I’m differentiating it from bisexual. To me a bisexual can go either way and be happy. I could never be happy with a man. I could never be sexually satisfied with a man. I would never choose to be in a relationship with a man, unless it was with a gay man to hide my real relationship. It hurts to be rejected from the paltry remains of the lesbian community. I really do think I am lesbian 🤷‍♀️ but I have ocd and this preoccupation with if I’m attracted to men is not the only intrusive thoughts I get.

I think bisexual women should cultivate their own culture. Because I agree it is needed. But I have met true bisexuals and I don’t relate to them. I lose interest when the topic goes to men.

[–]Seahorse 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah I think a lot of this is lesbians from privileged backgrounds or ones that have an inability to understand that not everyone in life is dealt the same hand.

I was too busy doing sport in highschool to be "interested" in boys so I had a nice little cover. So I never needed to fake being straight or have anything to do with men but I have lots of lesbian friends that did. They are not any less lesbian than me because they had to go a different route to me.

What you are describing to me is compulsive heterosexuality, I have seen some sheltered posters on here not believe it's a thing.

But it very much is, outside the cosy realms of western society (and sometimes still in it!) there are still places where one can be raped, beaten and indeed murdered for being lesbian.

[–]Skipdip[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Literally thank you. All I wanted by way oversharing on here is to hear that. I am from a pretty privileged situation that just so happened to be homophobic and sexist. Somehow I internalized a lot around it :/ I finally figured this out, in the midst of this cultural insanity. And now here I am, subjecting myself to this for some reason.