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[–]RedVelvetCake 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I totally get where you're coming from and I can relate to you very much. I came to accept my sexuality a couple months ago but was completely oblivious to the TRA movement. I'm residing in Asia right now and the news outlets here didn't cover the TRA movement so there really was no way of knowing it unless you search about it online by yourself. I also stuck to AL when I started learning about lesbians and was a bit perplexed when I noticed that the users there were mostly men. Luckily, I soon discovered TL and learned that I wasn't insane for not wanting to date men who identify as female. But then when the ban wave came along and banned TL along with other subs like LGBDroptheT, I finally realized the severity of this whole issue. One of the factors that made me furious was how, as you mentioned, TRAs will call us transphobic/bigots for not wanting to date transwomen. But the funny thing is, there're probably a lot of transwomen who are not looking to date each other as well and yet no one really questions/criticizes them when they're basically also discriminating against transwomen. I felt devastated at this point because I was only looking for a community for lesbians where we can freely share our experiences. Unfortunately, this issue isn't something that can be resolved easily so I'm just hoping that more people (not just people from the LGB community, but also heterosexual individuals) will eventually realize the risks and problems that may arise in the future for accommodating trans' ideologies.

Sorry for the incoherence, a lot has been running through my mind regarding the TRA movement and I also feel really upset about how this situation has escalated. I want you to know that we still have this sub, so let's lean on each other for support and don't lose your hope! This too shall pass :)