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[–]RedditHatesLesbians 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm 5'2" and my girlfriend is 5'8" and loves wearing boots. She's probably like 5'10" in her highest ones. Although on paper that seems like a crazy height difference, it's actually not. I mean with straight couples a height difference this big is the norm, and if anything straight girls like their man as tall as possible, there aren't any practical issues. I love her long legs and I basically swoon when she's towering over me, lol. I also love feeling her hair tickle my neck when she bends down to kiss me, I love it when she raises my chin up towards her. No downsides.

[–][deleted] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

How would you describe the "weird" feeling? Does it make you feel like the hulk towering above her? Or like mother & child? Or does it feel strangely unbalanced/unequal to have to look down on someone you are dating and for her to always have to look up at you? Can you see the feeling going away with time?

When I dated a woman significantly taller than me, I was not that conscious of the height difference. But I think that's because the shorter one has it easier. The taller person is the one who has to do most of the adjusting to make things work on a physical level. It seems like a relatively small thing to me, but I suppose it can get a little irksome over time?

[–]piylot 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

This is something I don't know about either. I find that being a head or so taller than the people I'm talking to can make me feel self conscious / awkward. I'm not sure how many times I've found myself attracted to someone that much smaller than me. Around my height is definitely a bonus, within 4inches/10cm is good, I'm just not sure if someone being that much (eg 8inch/20cm) smaller than me is a dealbreaker.

Was this something you were conscious of from the start? Did you meet in person or online? & Have you gotten more/less aware of the height difference over time?

[–]lmaonope333 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm 5 2 I prefer someone my height or taller

[–]spirette 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I hate to be shallow but yeah height difference matters to me. Like, I honestly can't imagine dating someone who were 20 cm taller or smaller than me. Sorry that's a deal-breaker for me.

I think it's fine to have any sort of deal-breaker honestly. It feels shitty if it's something based on looks but it is what it is imo. All my exes were my size or slightly (2 cm max) smaller. I want a woman who's my equal, in every sense of the term.

[–]Shroomba 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I love taller women! There would be no such thing as too tall for me. I'm not sure if I would date someone my height or shorter though. Perhaps I would if we had good enough chemistry? I'm 5"2.

[–]Disillusioned 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Me and my gf are almost the same height, I'm a bit taller, tho.

Let's say that I do care, I don't wanna a gf under 150cm nor above 175cm. I think 20cm of difference would be too much for me, too

[–]FrostyNugs 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I would not date a woman more than a few inches taller than me. It would make me feel insecure. Yes, I know I'm petty.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm 5'0 and I've never dated anyone shorter than 5'6. I think the tallest has been 5'10. I'm not fixated on tall women at all, and think it would be cute to date someone else who is of a similar height... It's just that the majority of women I find are taller, and I don't care about height since that's pretty much the norm for me. 🤷‍♀️

I'm more superficial about things people have control over.

[–]Glumtree 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I am 5’3” and my girlfriend is 5’8”. I love her height and how we fit together. I prefer women taller than me but it’s not a dealbreaker