Since you asked for non relationship things... I would say that lesbian self-assuredness. People see it from a mile away. I think you get it when you’ve worked through your internalized homophobia and misogyny. You are a woman, but yet like a rock. We technically as a group have higher self-esteem I have read. We are women who don’t waste time on patriarchal bullshit. We see through it. We do what is interesting and enjoyable for us. We simply live our lives and in doing that we can easily be a beacon for other women.