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[–]piylot 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Personal question so obligation no offence taken if you don't respond, but I'm interested — Was your therapist a straight man?

Did you continue to see them after realising you're gay? ie did they ever find out this is the final outcome of trying to work on your male aversion?

[–]ColdSoup[S] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yes, he was a straight man! Do you think that contributed to it?

I'm not seeing him again, but I let him know my realisation in the last session we had together and he seemed happy for me, yet oddly disappointed. However I chalked it down to him being upset I left since I've been going to him for over a year. I may go see a female therapist in the future since I deal with a lot of mental health problems and therapy is the best way I've found of dealing with them - the male aversion wasn't the main focus by any means - but I don't think a male therapist is a good fit anymore. I feel like any female therapist, straight or otherwise, would have considered the possibility of me being a lesbian and discussed it with me, while he never did.

[–]piylot 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I was just wondering, it's a pretty awful situation to be in regardless if it's a male or female therapist, was just thinking about how upsetting that would have been had I been in that situation when I was younger. Hope things have been easier since