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[–]carrotcake 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I cannot understand when a lesbian always calls herself "queer". It doesn't say anything about your sexual orientation, it can even be a gender descriptor. It feels like a deliberate choice to hide the fact that you're only same-sex attracted. I get it when it's someone that is discovering her sexuality and isn't sure yet or when it's used sometimes, but I can't understand why it would be your go to answer when describing your sexual orientation. I personally wouldn't use in any of those cases, but some of them I understand.

[–]FlanJam 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Part of the reason might be because of how people are pushing ~fluidity~ and bisexuality as the coolest and most progressive sexuality. Lesbian is looked down on as stogy and close-minded. I've even seen think pieces about how we don't need "lesbian" anymore smh.

I find it both ironic and sad that so many lesbians are averse to calling themselves lesbians, meanwhile a bunch of bi women are trying to "reclaim" lesbian for themselves.

[–]spirette 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

if a lesbian calls herself "queer" then I know immediately that I have to avoid her at all costs, be it on a dating app or in real life. She's definitely an idiot and a coward. Pass.