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[–]florasis 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

I guess being masculine as opposed to looking like an average woman makes the experience pretty different and for a masculine women their orientation impacts their life much more.

[–]Innisfree[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Agree, and also I find a more homophobic environment really brings out what u/carrotcake and u/violetremi so well describe. But I really appreciate hearing the different perspectives shared here.

Edit: I don't know about being masculine impacting my life more than say for a feminine lesbian, depends on the level of homophobia, but in general - it's just a different way. I think this thread illustrates it very well.

[–]florasis 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

A femme lesbian will be considered straight until she says she isn't.That's a great difference.

[–]oofreesouloo 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I personally think it sucks to be either a femme or butch lesbian. As a femme, I feel like people rarely believe me or think I must be bisexual constantly "because it's impossible that a lesbian is feminine". The struggles are just different.

[–]florasis 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I know that I wouldn't want everyone everywhere to know my sexuality. Not that I got a problem, but I would rather a freedom of keeping it to myself, or not beign see as a central part of me.