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[–]oofreesouloo 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

No. Apart from the two women I was with on a relationship (with whom I didn't maintain contact after break up), I've met very few lesbians irl and the ones I met were butch, meaning I PERSONALLY (I have a preference towards femmes) had no romantic interest in them AND found myself not being able to relate much to them either which made it harder to develop a friendship. One of them in particular ewwww. She behaves like a pre pubescent guy, the only thing we have in common is that we both like women. Apart from that, ew ew ew. I wish I could find more lesbians to relate with irl in particular femme lesbians. :( I wish I could meet someone "like me", but the "closest" I find is femme bi women but they're bi so for obvious reasons I won't ever relate totally. Still hoping!

[–]sunzzy[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I can totally relate about about not being the stereotypical butch lesbian. It sucks that some people literally won't believe me if I tell them because I'm "too pretty" to be gay. Like I know that's meant to be a compliment but now whenever someone isn't surprised that I'm a lesbian I feel like they think I'm ugly or something...

Can we please just burn the stereotypes?

[–]oofreesouloo 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yep, exactly. I think the struggles femme lesbians face are very different from butch lesbians, and that's why I found it hard to relate. Butch lesbians don't deal with the "invisibility" and "erasure" we deal with on daily basis, aka NO ONE believing you're a lesbian and you have to CONSTANTLY be "proving" to others that yes, you're a lesbian uuughhhhhhhh. People literally FORGET you're a lesbian and start talking about guys to you and I'm like hellooooooo?? 🤪

[–]sunzzy[S] 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

It annoys me the concept that if you have long nails you couldn't possibly be a lesbian, like JEEZ if you want someone to finger you you should probably be a little more polite...

[–]oofreesouloo 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

😂😂😂