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[–]Maeven 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yes.

I told someone that I was worried about dating because lesbians get pressured a lot by trans women. She agreed that trans women are men, and I have the right to reject them but thought that I was being paranoid, and that people in LGBTQ groups would understand my hesitation/I wasn't likely to even meet any trans women.

It's a very liberal area. I've heard exactly the opposite from lesbians who have involved with the community. She just made up this super ignorant assumption from thin air. I guess she didn't want to believe me. It really hurt.

[–][deleted] 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

People have no idea what they are even saying. Lots of gay people move to larger cities etc and these places are absolutely loaded with trans people. Literally half my “lesbian” friends transitioned ffs. Ages from 18 - 45, most of them in their 20s and 30s. And also loads of butches I was not friends with but would see around. Trans women started appearing in lesbian spaces, but not many, and that number has been steadily increasing over the years. Most of them don’t even seem to try passing now. And these people are pretty much all extremely hostile toward lesbians with boundaries, and will openly try and ask questions to smoke out the “terfs.”

And this was like 15 years ago or something that it started picking up. People in LGBTQ groups actively shun and protest anyone and anything they think steps even SLIGHTLY out of line with the ideology.

Randoms who think it’s okay to be gay in the gay community are clearly unaware of this.

[–]Maeven 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It actually means a lot to see you say that. Thanks.