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[–]dilsencySame-sex community 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

People being repulsed by certain genitals isn't uncommon. While some gay men can be quite explicit about it, I imagine it's a type of bonding of shared experiences, and the expression of it is simply exaggerated.

But of course, some people take things we say so literally when they want to. I remember people making a huge stink about the term "gold star gay" some time ago, describing it as an exclusive club and something that determined your "worth in the community". It's really not that serious.

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

People being repulsed by certain genitals isn't uncommon.

This is something I didn't even realize till discovering LGBDropTheT, actually. That, for many people, being repulsed by the genitals of the sex they're not attracted to comes naturally, as in having zero connection to anything like bad experiences/associations, or (among heterosexuals) homophobia. Not that I ever thought gay people could look at the opposite sex's junk and be like, "HAWT!"; I just assumed that, barring anything traumatic, they'd respond with complete indifference, sexually speaking. But it seems that repulsion is often built-in.

Which makes me wonder: could this be an avenue for diffusing many straight people's homophobia/SSA-phobia? What if their basic motivation is that same inborn sense of disgust? Nothing ideological, or even cultural-- just the reflexive "EWWW" that non-bisexuals often inherently feel? So that, when they DO hear the ideological/cultural justifications for gayness/bi-ness being sinful/unnatural/wrong-- in other words, "gross"-- it really resonates with them? Seems intuitively true? Well, maybe this opens the door to pointing out that... gay people often feel precisely the same way about stuff involving the opposite sex's junk. And straight people don't agree with THAT, do they? Meaning that this kind of being grossed-out reflects not objective, but rather subjective, reality? And therefore shouldn't be the basis for disapproval, discrimination, or the like? Because, straight people, you wouldn't accept any of those things being directed at you?

Well, it's a thought, anyway.

[–]ElectraHeart 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I wish there was a place for discussions like these.