ColonizationIf gay men asserting the fact that they are gay makes you suicidal, your lack of dating options is the least of your problems

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[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

If I have to see another, 'I'm totally okay with trans people, I'm just not attracted to them' post, I'm going to lose it.

And it's fucking everywhere. Even the bisexuality subreddit is chock full of people giving their unasked-for opinions on trans people's bodies. No one asked.

They don't ask, they TELL us all, over and over and over again, in entitled, obtuse, and often rapey fashion. Hence the prompt and regular boundary assertion. Any time a TRA says "No one" at the start of a sentence, they're lying.

I still feel 1% sorry for them for feeling body shamed, but they 99% likely did that to themselves by pushing themselves on people who by definition are not going to want them. Crack a dictionary and save yourself some heartache, FFS. This wall ain't moving not matter how many times you bang your head against it.

And frankly I am glad to hear that bisexuals aren't as much of a soft target TRAs seemed to expect we would be. Again, learn what words mean. Then come up with your own terms to differentiate, so you can find the people who want to find you.

[–]ThrowMeAway2879[S] 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Tthey didn't task, they TOLD us

To be fair, they do ask. Preferably on online forums. Like clockwork. Again and again and again. And again. "Would you date a trans man?" "Am I valid?" "Pre-op trans bro, am I allowed here?"

So, yes: They do ask and they ask so often that people learn that only a no will stop the invasion. And since a simple "no" will usually not suffice, people get more graphic every time.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The same way that women think they have to have reasons to say no to straight men who pursue them ("I have a boyfriend," etc.). Like every one of those perpetrators, these don't understand that no means no, either.

But also: It's not a benign question if they have set up an implied transphobia accusation threat right behind it. It's a trap.

[–]Three_oneFourWanted for thought crimes in countless ideologies 9 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

"I didn't ask for your opinion so you could disagree with what I want to hear! If you're not going to validate me with the response I want then get out"