LifestyleBattling an internal masculinity struggle right now with the gay community. Any tips would be appreciated.

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[–]fuck_reddit 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

You shouldn’t force yourself to fit a mold. That will make you miserable without improving your situation. My advice would be: do what you like, don’t do what you don’t like, tell the truth, and know/learn how to take a joke. In terms of picking friends, try to find people that being out and encourage the best in you.

[–]mvmlego 8 insightful - 8 fun8 insightful - 7 fun9 insightful - 8 fun -  (1 child)

I think it's worth emphasizing that you want to find people who will bring out and encourage the best in you, as opposed to blindly encourage you. A tenent of TQ+ ideology and culture is to never "invalidate" someone who feels like a victim (if they can't reasonably be construed as victimizing someone else, at least). The result is that the person in question never engages in self-reflection and will never grow in character. You can see this sort of thing happen all the time with LGBCATONKEYBOARD subs on Reddit.

[–]fuck_reddit 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That’s what I was intending to say, but you phrased it better. Your friends should also be willing to call you out on BS and keep you grounded.