It is very heterosexual/heteronormative way of looking at it. I don't think, it is about power at all for homosexuals. It is about internalized homophobia and desperate attempt, as crazy at it sound, to dehomosexualize homosexuality and hide behind heterosexual kinksters. To stop be the other. For the same reason some gay men and lesbian women want to be indistinguishable from straights. For the same reason there was an attempt to lump LGB with heterosexual but not totally normative people into one queer community. And for the same reason, the same people think, that if there will be no way to see, what two people have in pants (as if) and what biological sex they are, straight homophobes will accept us, as the same as them. It is not gonna happen. Homophobes have no problem with a man identifying as a woman with a woman or a woman identifying as man and a man. It was never about labels or clothes. And lets not allow to muddle this. It is not homosexual people, who are the main force, that push that fuckery.