LGB ErasureWhat is the deal with Queer Theory separating Romantic and Sexual Attraction?

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[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I think romance and sexual attraction ARE separate.

Hear me out on this one. No, I don't think it's possible to have a conflicting "romantic orientation" and "sexual orientation", ie being a "homoromantic heterosexual." But I do think sexual attraction and romance do NOT go hand in hand and can absolutely be separate.

I am sexually attracted to males, but I have never been "in love" with one, nor loved back. I just don't have that connection and I don't feel like most males are even interested in "love." I don't see the point in lying about homosexuality being this thing about "love is love" and eternal relationships when that's actually far from reality. Most men just want sex.

A sad reality no one wants to admit, maybe, but it's no more of a lie than "biological sex is real." I wish I had "love" but chances are I never will, because "romantic love" is more or less a fairytale concept and something that most of us won't experience. Media teaches us that we're all destined to "find our one true love" but that's unrealistic and a lie. I think most people don't, regardless of orientation.

[–]rockhard288 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think most people are waking up to the monogamy aspect. That's why many are participating in open relationships, polyamory, swinging. And why some people are refusing to get married or even in a relationship.

Despite that I think the analysis is kinda shallow. While sex is the big part in partnering, humans do have an emotional component to it too. And it has been observed in adjacent species.